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Old 12-18-2017, 03:40 PM
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I don't know what texts you're referring to. The ones I read were a married guy trying to convince her to go on a road trip with him, full of unsolicited or requited pet names, and sexual innuendo (stamina! see another blue eyed hunk? beauty, doll face, #dreamgirl, doll, heart eyes emoji's after photos of her, a number of photos with his shirt off, etc.). None of that is appropriate if you ask me. He was her superior at work.

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Old 12-18-2017, 04:47 PM
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I don't know what texts you're referring to. The ones I read were a married guy trying to convince her to go on a road trip with him, full of unsolicited or requited pet names, and sexual innuendo (stamina! see another blue eyed hunk? beauty, doll face, #dreamgirl, doll, heart eyes emoji's after photos of her, a number of photos with his shirt off, etc.). None of that is appropriate if you ask me. He was her superior at work.
It appears you are picking and choosing texts which you accuse ESPN doing....her texts back do not hint about her having a boyfriend..pointing out that he has a wife. She is scheduling dinner with him. It is a least possible she may of been interested in him. People do get divorced and get a new spouse from someone they met at work. Meeting someone for dinner who you barely know seems odd unless there was a mutual interest. People can always meet for work but know it the back of their minds theres a chance for something else. Much less the case if meeting for lunch where after lunch you go back to work. After dinner thats not the case relatively speaking.

Plus he mentioned long leggs when she said she would have to re-adjust his seat if she sat in it.

When you are high enough, its not like there are many people to choose from to date at your level and higher (at the job) versus people below you (and also much likely younger and single)

here is a bunch of the texts...its easy to be cordial..but she keeps asking for additional stuff...shes not 14 years old. If she sees all of this innuendo and keeps meeting with him for mentoring..shes getting an unfair advantage over her male colleagues using his attention on her to help her.....but if it doesnt work out shes a victim

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Old 12-18-2017, 04:57 PM
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What about her texts suggests mutual attraction to you though? To me it's entirely one sided. She starts a mundane conversation and he tries to steer it in a different direction. The only time a photo of her appears, it's a photo sent by him. He appears shirtless in multiple pics that were totally unsolicited. She never said she had a relationship with this man, so I don't know what you mean when you talk about dating at work.

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Old 12-18-2017, 05:11 PM
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What about her texts suggests mutual attraction to you though? To me it's entirely one sided. She starts a mundane conversation and he tries to steer it in a different direction. The only time a photo of her appears, it's a photo sent by him. He appears shirtless in multiple pics that were totally unsolicited. She never said she had a relationship with this man, so I don't know what you mean when you talk about dating at work.
well she admits to having dinner with him and also invites him over for carrot cake.

plus if you say 'i love pearl jam' in response to someone saying they have tickets to them for example and has taken you to dinner before then its very likely he will say 'do you want to go to a concert?' Thats not totally unsolicited if he asks her that for example.

If she is a guy she doesnt get this type of attention obviously. There are a lot of female mentors out there as well they wont ask you to dinner but they will give you attention based on your talent and potential. There are guys that will do that as well but probably not from someone that is fine taking you out to dinner right in the beginning.

Can always say 'i not interested in a relationship but interested in mentoring etc' Maybe you just get ignored after that and maybe thats why she does not say that\\

she is married by the way.(at least thats what i saw on the 'net) It doesnt appear that buccigross knows anything about her schedule or what kind of assignments she was given, yet she would like to meet up with him for dinner. What her husband think about this...


Also shes is not a lamb in the woods..she is a big time attorney...supervised 45 lawyers at a big big time law firms..and fought sex harassment cases.....so she knows the system...i dont see her saying anything in the texts about creating some boundaries to avoid misunderstandings

"Lawrence was able to use her legal expertise in her work as an analyst at ESPN. She wrote a response on espnW to the attorney for Yale basketball player Jack Montague, who was expelled because of a sexual misconduct accusation. She also provided analysis on the Derrick Rose and Ryan Lochte cases."

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well i'm a huge bucci fan...but again good to know i'm on the opposite side of another boynton argument. it validates my day!
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This sexual harassment and #MeToo crap is dangerous and has gotten way out of hand.

For the record, my fiancee and I met when she was my boss. As long as it's kept professional at work, they didn't care.
I think we can all agree that flirting with someone,while inappropriate in some situations, is not that big a deal in others. There is a lot of distance between flirting with someone and repeatedly demanding sex as a way of getting ahead professionally, pushing someone against a wall, locking them in an office, or worse.
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Old 12-19-2017, 09:57 AM
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I think we can all agree that flirting with someone,while inappropriate in some situations, is not that big a deal in others. There is a lot of distance between flirting with someone and repeatedly demanding sex as a way of getting ahead professionally, pushing someone against a wall, locking them in an office, or worse.
I also do think along with the power dynamic you need to see who the alleged victim is

I think most of you thought lawrence was a 22 year old out of college lady getting a foothold in the business.

instead she is a big time attorney and professor and oversaw 45 attorneys who each of those lawyers had to making over 6 figures.....she likely has over millions in earnings in her career..... the law firms she worked for (in a management role )are the top earners in the country

i think the wolf and the lamb are a bit reversed here......she didnt mind the attention and was not naive.....im sure any of her male colleagues were not inviting Bucci for carrot cake and arranging late night dinners..
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How many married men text shirtless pictures of themselves to other women. Must be a fairly common occurrence and I am way behind the times again. Criminal, probably not, stupid and ill-advised in this situation - yes.
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That's the thing, this is an issue of professionalism. These texts from him are clearly not professional and nothing would convince me they were. Cake and dinners are not invitations for sex and that's exactly the kind of thinking that people are trying to end. Just because a woman is nice to you or would like to have a professional relationship with you, that's not an invitation for constant flirting or unsolicited photos of your body.

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Old 12-19-2017, 05:19 PM
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That's the thing, this is an issue of professionalism. These texts from him are clearly not professional and nothing would convince me they were. Cake and dinners are not invitations for sex and that's exactly the kind of thinking that people are trying to end. Just because a woman is nice to you or would like to have a professional relationship with you, that's not an invitation for constant flirting or unsolicited photos of your body.
What are invitations for sex? Everything doesnt always point A to B. Dinner and drinks after 9 pm can lead to sex sometimes

In the texts back and forth she didnt stop texting him after the photo...so you cant say its unsolicited, there is some type of approval going on, as she continues to text him She isnt a 22 year old out of school....shes a 14 year experienced big time attorney (with sex descrim cases that she has handled no less on her record)

Just because a woman wants to be your friend doesnt mean a man has to be their friend. For lots of people in their busy lives, they have time for a girlfriend but not another friend. He may already have lots of friends. She had unique access to him that her male colleague likely did not. She played a part in all of this is all that i am saying, its not like she just got out of college etc.

I know if i asked a guy i just met if i can meet him for dinner and invite him over a night for carrot cake, you can say all you want about professionalism etc, society would view that as a bid odd especially early early on in knowing someone. Change the guy to a younger woman meeting with a man, and not sure what change of thinking would be needed. Can always do lunch meetings during the work day, that screams professionalism to me versus late night dinners and carrot cakes at someone's house but maybe thats just me.

If you could tell that he wanted more than just dinner, how come she couldn't...

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