OT: The Trevor Bauer Case

[Carter08]

Originally Posted by BobC

Times and thinking change guys. I've never said I defend or condone what Bauer does, so if anyone is insinuating that I'm sticking up and dying on some hill for him, I am not. But I'm also not going to be intimidated or influenced by anyone's myopic thinking and comments either. Last I looked, this is still a free country and he has a right to say and do want he wants, within the law, and whether anyone else likes and/or agrees with it or not. All I'm pointing out is how some people come on here and immediately say he's horrible and disgusting, without possibly knowing the entire story or situation, and convicting him in their minds because he is odd and different, based on all the stories and such that have come out about him over the years.

Do those being so critical of Bauer know if he has any mental or other issues? Is he possibly a bit autistic, or maybe he's just a lot like the Sheldon Cooper character from The Big Bang Theory TV series. A sizable portion of our population have and deal with any number and variety of mental, sociological, and physical defects and issues, and many so-called "normal" people look down on and show bias, discrimination, and outright hate for such people, without ever knowing or understanding where those people have come from and what they've had to deal with in their lives.

There is another extremely huge thing that those condemning Bauer have completely failed to mention or discuss......what about the alleged victim? Not one of the naysayers has mentioned anything about the alleged victim's background, demeanor, or situation in the least. They just say they hate Bauer and/or what he allegedly did. Remember, Bauer didn't go out and kidnap some women to take back to his apartment to abuse and rape them. These women met him somehow and apparently shared some thoughts and beliefs with him as far as sexual preferences, and clearly liked him enough to voluntarily want to be with him and engage in what some of you look upon as deviant sexual activity and behavior. Now, were these women actually into the "rough sex" scene that Bauer apparently is into, or were they into being with a star athlete who makes lots of money and maybe decided to put up with Bauer's sexual preferences to have a chance to score the rich athlete of their dreams, or maybe they were just crazy or with low esteem and confidence and grabbing at anything they can and Bauer just happened to be the low hanging fruit they hooked up with? We'll most likely never really know, but whatever the reason, it seems the Bauer naysayers have no comments in regard to the possibility that these women may be as much, or even more, to blame than Bauer. Yet not a one of the naysayers has mentioned that aspect at all of potential shared blame. They sound like they condemn Bauer simply because he's the man, so the women are automatically the victim and he's totally guilty?

Some naysayers call Bauer misogynistic as supposed proof of their point of view, but offer no background or explanation as to how or why he may have a dislike for women. And even if he does have an overall dislike or distrust of women, why does that automatically mean to some that he is guilty in this situation? For all we know, he may have been abused by his own Mother, or some other female(s) in his early years, and those issues possibly have carried over to his adult life. The fact is, none of us know the entire and complete backgrounds and situations of BOTH parties to this case, and all the circumstances surrounding it. Yet, it seems some of the people out there are quick to condemn Bauer as disgusting and horrible, lay all the fault at his feet, and apparently condone what MLB has done to possibly punish Bauer prematurely for what may ultimately turn out to be nothing more than he's the man in the situation, which given the current thinking of society about women's rights and the influence of the #MeToo and like movements, makes him automatically guilty.

Geez, talk about how misinformation, lack of information, biases, and discrimination can play into what happens in our world!

Look at the pictures of her and that may help realize why it’s an uphill battle for me to take his side on this. You beat the crap out of someone and I’m not giving you the benefit of the doubt.

[1952boyntoncollector]

Originally Posted by Carter08

Look at the pictures of her and that may help realize why it’s an uphill battle for me to take his side on this. You beat the crap out of someone and I’m not giving you the benefit of the doubt.

as to my analogy i gave above...she is the one at the bar staring somebody down and when given the look back by a big guy she says 'what you going to do about it' Then the guy beats her up

yeah she did things that i would never do in that example and clearly wrong, but she is trumped by even the bigger wrong of getting beaten up

[BobC]

Originally Posted by Carter08

Look at the pictures of her and that may help realize why it’s an uphill battle for me to take his side on this. You beat the crap out of someone and I’m not giving you the benefit of the doubt.

I never said I condone what Bauer did, and am certainly not automatically taking his side. I do not know all the facts and details in this case to be able to do so. I also cannot automatically dismiss that the alleged victim may have had some complicity or shared guilt in all this either. Please tell me why he is somehow then able to find women that apparently want to have "rough sex" with him? Didn't the women who has taken him to court actually sleep with him and have these "rough sex' sessions more than once? If she wasn't into it and asking for the punishment to reach her "happy ending", why did she voluntarily go back to him then?

Something about this entire situation doesn't quite add up, especially when you add in the pictures of the victim in bed with Bauer supposedly after one of these "rough sex" sessions. Add in to that the decision by the prosecutors NOT to press criminal charges against Bauer, AND the fact that the victim could not get a judge to grant her a restraining order against Bauer. As others have previously pointed out, getting a simple restraining order in an alleged assault type case should be a virtual slam dunk for the victim/accuser, yet the judge involved said NO!!!! That is fricking huge! I am not privy to all the evidence, testimony, and such that led a judge to decide against granting the restraining order, are you??? If not, then you probably don't know anything more about all the actual details and such, other than what has come out and been reported in the news and media, than I or pretty much anyone else on this forum really does. I at least have the intelligence and open-mindedness to not rush to a biased decision and know and realize that I do not know all the true facts and details in this case, and don' just make decisions based on what is shown and reported in possibly sensationalized and biased media and news stories and reports, or by others who tell me what I should believe because they are right, and anyone not in absolute agreement with them is wrong. I am totally against anyone, female or male, getting beaten up like this woman was. But if she was in fact asking to be treated roughly during sex with Bauer, and he was complying with her wishes and desires, at least initially, the narrative isn't as cut and dried IMO as others are claiming.

And the fact I know that I don't know enough to make a final decision on this issue, makes me all the more question MLB for what now appears to possibly be a somewhat premature judgement and penalty handed down against Bauer. And don't kid yourself, MLB likely went ahead and penalized Bauer already, before any final legal resolution to his civil case, just to make the public that has already declared Bauer guilty in their minds, happy. They don't want fans upset with them and to possibly lose business and money because of Bauer. I don't think they honestly care what kind of sex life Bauer chooses, but when it may cost the baseball team owners a dollar or two, suddenly they gain a conscience.

People are free to think and decide how they like, and I am happy to hear and listen to anyone's reasoning and evidence. But people also need to remember the "Golden Rule", and try to see and realize that others may have radically different ideas than them, like possibly being into "rough sex" or "S&M" and what that entails and implies.