Spousal Support

[rainier2004]

I think its nice how many supportive spouses we have. I had the impression from threads it would not be this way on the board. I agree that couples should have things they do seperately and together. One way or another my wife is told about all "big" purchases, thats just how we roll.

Zach - All I can say is you have shown a lot of passion about your collection and your fellow collectors since you've joined the board and I think others here would agree...I would hate to think anyone could dampen that. I always enjoy reading your posts, especially the brutally honest ones...either way, keep your passion!

[tbob]

I won't mention his name but a former card shop owner in the earlier years had an incredible collection of prewar cards in his private collection. His second wife kept threatening to put a garden hose through the window in the basement and flood them all whenever she got mad. He finally took her seriously and sold all his of his prewar stuff for well over a million dollars. He then sold his card shop and the last time I talked to him he no longer collects cards at all, just vintage jazz records. I don't have the heart to ask him if he is still married to wife #2.......

[zljones]

Originally Posted by rainier2004

I think its nice how many supportive spouses we have. I had the impression from threads it would not be this way on the board. I agree that couples should have things they do seperately and together. One way or another my wife is told about all "big" purchases, thats just how we roll.

Zach - All I can say is you have shown a lot of passion about your collection and your fellow collectors since you've joined the board and I think others here would agree...I would hate to think anyone could dampen that. I always enjoy reading your posts, especially the brutally honest ones...either way, keep your passion!

Honestly after reading the posts yesterday I decided to completely fess up to her, she was not happy but I said it's my money. She may now learn to accept my collecting. We ended on a good note for the evening, now I will begin exposing her to this stuff deeper and I will take Leon's advice and say it's for an investment. But years from now I will tell her I changed my mind and I will keep them.

[MVSNYC]

"Honestly after reading the posts yesterday I decided to completely fess up to her, she was not happy but I said it's my money."

congrats. that's called being a man. well done.

[Merrillstoys]

It was 47 years ago. I took this girl out on our second date. I was taking her to Manhattan to see a Broadway show and then to dinner. I asked her if we could first stop by a stamp show at the Americana Hotel and she said yes. While at the stamp show I bought a stamp for $100 and she went nuts. She said “It’s used!! You can’t even put it on an envelope.” I explained that even though this was only our second date, if we fell in love and got married and she wanted a home, I could sell my stamp collection and buy her that home. For the rest of the stamp show she never said another word.
About 25 years ago my wife came back to our apartment from a shopping trip. She announced that she found a house that we just had to buy. I told her we couldn’t afford it. She said “Do you remember our second date? You said if I wanted a house, you would sell your stamp collection and buy me that house.” I still don’t think that’s exactly what I said. Anyway, two weeks later I flew to L.A., sold the stamp collection and bought the house.
When I informed my wife I would start collecting baseball cards, she said “You go right ahead and collect anything you want.” Wasn’t she great?
So now I collect T206 baseball cards. My children will have to pry the cards out of my cold dead hands.
Rest in peace baby.

[campyfan39]

The key for me was that I was knee deep in it when she met me. As with anything with people who love each other we learn to appreciate or even enjoy things that the other person enjoys.
When I knew she was a keeer was when our first Christmas we were dating and she got me a 1954 Yogi Berra! I actually went to a show the morning of our wedding day and bought a 55 Jackie Robinson.

Here is the BEST part..... After years of saving to build a house a couple years ago SHE suggested we include a secret room in the house! It is 12x12 filled with baseball cards and memorabilia. I am always rearranging things and creating new displays and she loves to come in and help.

[Leon]

Originally Posted by zljones

Honestly after reading the posts yesterday I decided to completely fess up to her, she was not happy but I said it's my money. She may now learn to accept my collecting. We ended on a good note for the evening, now I will begin exposing her to this stuff deeper and I will take Leon's advice and say it's for an investment. But years from now I will tell her I changed my mind and I will keep them.

Unless you take them to the grave with you then at some point they will be an investment, or at least sold and will either stay the same, gain or lose value. So it's not really a story in saying they are an investment. Mine are and I am not above saying they are. They might lose and they might gain and I get to have fun doing it. Much better than owning stocks which I used to do. I don't necessarily recommend my actions/thoughts on others though. Most folks say cards aren't an investment and you should do something else. I have some other resources but my cards are a good portion of them and I am fine calling them an investment.

[GoldenAge50s]

When we got married my wife agreed that if our 1st born was a boy it would be named Mickey.

We went to Cooperstown for our 1st Anniversary.

Our only child was conceived there. (Turned out to be a healthy & beautiful Jacquelyn instead of a Mickey!) I call her the Cooperstown Comet!

'Nuf said!

[zljones]

Well an update to my situation, since I told my finacee all about it, she is so far been accepting. Today became a huge test, I just lost my job today and now have to hit the unemployment line tomorrow. When I told her about she reassured that she will stand by me and has been cheery. I don't know if she will stay supportive, but for right now she is very supportive and that is important during hard times. She even understands that I still am going to try to hold on to my cards. But if I need to sell them I will let you all know.

[rainier2004]

Originally Posted by zljones

Well an update to my situation, since I told my finacee all about it, she is so far been accepting. Today became a huge test, I just lost my job today and now have to hit the unemployment line tomorrow. When I told her about she reassured that she will stand by me and has been cheery. I don't know if she will stay supportive, but for right now she is very supportive and that is important during hard times. She even understands that I still am going to try to hold on to my cards. But if I need to sell them I will let you all know.

Sorry to hear about the job and good luck on the next venture...

[zljones]

Originally Posted by rainier2004

Sorry to hear about the job and good luck on the next venture...

Thanks, it was a big shocker today and it's the first time I lost a job in 10 years.

[Matthew H]

Originally Posted by zljones

Well an update to my situation, since I told my finacee all about it, she is so far been accepting. Today became a huge test, I just lost my job today and now have to hit the unemployment line tomorrow. When I told her about she reassured that she will stand by me and has been cheery. I don't know if she will stay supportive, but for right now she is very supportive and that is important during hard times. She even understands that I still am going to try to hold on to my cards. But if I need to sell them I will let you all know.

Zack, my wife has been with me through thick and thin. I mean REALLY thin. We've been together going on nine years now. She's a great mother, was a loyal girlfriend and now is a loyal wife. I don't think my career would be taking off the way it is right now had she been one of those "we need money now" types. She has been very supportive of my goals and believed in me even when I was ready to quit and try something else, she urged me to continue and "talked me off the ledge" many times so that I could continue in a career choice that I loved. She worked a job too and did the mom stuff as well so that I could focus and not worry about making enough money.

She also hates my baseball cards. Who ____ cares!? Don't let people tell you that you need to find a girl that likes baseball cards. I wouldn't trade my wife for anyone.

[mark evans]

My wife's only request has been that I provide her the name of an auction house to call in the event of my untimely demise.

[zljones]

Originally Posted by Matthew H

Zack, my wife has been with me through thick and thin. I mean REALLY thin. We've been together going on nine years now. She's a great mother, was a loyal girlfriend and now is a loyal wife. I don't think my career would be taking off the way it is right now had she been one of those "we need money now" types. She has been very supportive of my goals and believed in me even when I was ready to quit and try something else, she urged me to continue and "talked me off the ledge" many times so that I could continue in a career choice that I loved. She worked a job too and did the mom stuff as well so that I could focus and not worry about making enough money.

She also hates my baseball cards. Who ____ cares!? Don't let people tell you that you need to find a girl that likes baseball cards. I wouldn't trade my wife for anyone.

Thanks man, she is not pressuring me to sell my cards either which is great.

[Exhibitman]

Originally Posted by Matthew H

Don't let people tell you that you need to find a girl that likes baseball cards.

It isn't about whether the prospective spouse likes the collecting, it is about whether she/he respects you enough to let you get your collecting freak on. My wife doesn't like card collecting--it bores the heck out of her--but she respects me enough to leave me to it.